Friday, April 30, 2010

When Life Gives you Lemons

Today, while I was driving home from Ogden alone, I thought a lot about things.

It is scientifically proven, that every action has a positive or negative reaction.

In life, our every action, has a positive or negative consequence.

It is for us to decide;

We can, learn from the experience, we can grow and essentially make good choices in our future. We can teach those around us, not to make the same mistakes that we have made.

Or, we can dwell on the situation, feeling sorry for our self, and blaming others. And in time, we will once again continue to make the same mistakes.

It's not for me to tell you, how you should feel, what things you should and should not do.

With that being said, I feel that it is important for us to experience the consequences of our actions. It frustrates me when, we (as in all humans) are "bailed out" of our consequences. We become cheated, out of a life lesson, one that will teach us, from that point forward. A lesson that will teach us to become better, to become our best!

If Johnny hits his brother, and his mother tells him he must tell his brother sorry, and then sit in the corner for 5 minutes, Johnny will learn that hitting his brother is unacceptable, he will learn that his actions, has a negative result, and he will no longer hit his brother.

However, if Johnny's father decides to take Johnny out of the corner, Johnny will never gain the experience of being punished. He will continue to hit his brother.

This happens through life,

When someone goes to jail, they can be bailed out.

If we spend more money than we have and go into debt, we can file bankruptcy.

If we can't pay for college, the government will pay for it.

In fact, in all life situations, there is a bail out. What incentive is there to do the right thing anymore? If there is always someone there to catch us when we fall, why should we even try to stand alone?

Why should we tell the truth, when we are expected to lie?

Why should we practice to become a good baseball player, if everyone makes the team.

Why should we keep score at those baseball games, if the parents will be upset when their child loses, and essentially they will deem all players as winners.

Someone has to lose, in order to win. Someone has to lose in order to have the incentive to win.

I don't think we should bail each other out of consequences. We shouldn't cheat someone out of a lesson. We shouldn't take away the chance to become a better person.

Why not,

Be our own best friend.

Work hard, everyday.

Work to make money, to support our selves.

Accept the consequences of our actions.

Always tell the truth.

Overuse "I love you."

Say Thank you.

Pray to God.

Never accept a bailout.

Be there for your friends and family. Don't bail them out of the lessons in life. There is a reason that every action has a positive or negative reaction.

Be proud of the person you see in the mirror everyday. If you're not, you're doing something wrong.

Have faith in yourself!

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1 comment:

  1. Great post, Nicole. I think a lot of people would really benefit from having that attitude.

    One of my best friends, who is one year younger than me, got herself into some pretty bad credit card debt about a year ago. She had just gotten her own place and she felt the "need" to buy all sorts of nice stuff for it and before she knew it she had racked up thousands in debt. But the thing was, it was on her mom's credit card. Her mom had trusted her to use it for just the essentials, and well, she didn't. So her mom filed bankruptcy. And filing bankruptcy is an easy way out, yes, but it does affect your credit very negatively and makes it so it's super hard to get loans and all that. But my friend not only didn't have to pay for all the stuff she bought, but her credit doesn't even reflect her bad decisions. She told me about this, elated, and all I could think was, "So what did you learn?"